Life Balance Fallacies – Part 2

In the last post, we explored Life Balance Fallacy #1 and deflated the overwhelm that the term life balance can bring.  So today, we are bringing Fallacy #2 to reality as well.

Life Balance Fallacy #2:   You should spend a lot of time on what you are weakest at.

We have all heard the saying, “You are only as strong as your weakest link.”  While there is some truth in that, it is overblown. 

I believe it is extremely important to focus on whether or not you feel alive and passionate.  Do you spend a sufficient amount of time, energy and attention on those things that make you feel alive and joyful, and that provide a sense of fulfillment.  These things speak to the quality of your life.  We have all heard of or seen extremely successful, healthy people who are unhappy in their lives.  Find a way to have your success and have the spark and quality as well.  It may take some creativity, but isn’t your life worth it?

Now, back to the weak link(s), by all means, spend some time there too.  It doesn’t have to take a lot of time or dominate your life, but making your life more well rounded always supports the quality of your life in the long run.  For example, if you have trouble in relationships, whether they be romantic, familial, social or business, perhaps learning some communication skills can go a long way to improving your interactions.  Or, perhaps, you are not physically fit.  By performing some kind of fun, cardio activity, just 30 minutes a day for three to four days per week, you will gain more mental clarity, more stamina, more energy, and more options to have fun in many areas of your life.  In fact, some times working on a weak link can help you fulfill or get more out of your enlivening, life quality activity you identified in the last post.

So, how do we easily strengthen our weak links?

  1. In the last post I suggested that you take a moment to write down a paragraph or two or more about what your life would be like if you could lead any life you wished.  Pull out that writing.  If you haven’t written it yet, here’s your chance. 
  2. Use the info from your writing to identify, what areas of your life are your weak links.  From that list pick no more than two areas that you choose to strengthen now.  For example, you may want to be in a romantic relationship or start a new business. 
  3. The trick to making a significant change is to regularly take a step to get you there.  So, chunk it down.  What is the one thing you can do today that will move you in your chosen direction?   Then tomorrow, identify the one thing you can do that day to support your goal.  And so on…  These actions may take only five minutes so stop holding yourself back.  It is by taking a series of small steps that you will ultimately get there.